How to complicate simple matters

spring_mainau_peacock_238669How to complicate simple matters

For reasons beyond my understanding, many people like to complicate even the simplest things in life. Below I present three main reasons for this condition.

1. Ignorance

No human being is exempt from this condition. We’re all born entirely ignorant. Thank God for people who from an early age begen to deposit knowledge instruction in us!

We can not afford the luxury of remaining ignorant, that is, if we want to simplify things.

It was a beautiful afternoon in spring and I was manually pulling weeds in the grass of our recently purchased first home. After a few hours I was sweating profusely and hadn’t made much of a dent. A neighbor walking by saw me laboring hard and told me I could buy a treatment that kills the grass weeds. He said I just had to spray the grass and that would do it. I thanked him very much and did as he advised. Two days later the grass was free of weeds and my back was not broken in two.

Our ignorance, as it relates to handling certain situations in life, can lead us to complicate some things that can actually be very simple.

2. Arrogance

Unlike ignorance, arrogance is a character flaw. The exaggerated opinion of their own abilities, prevent people from listening to the suggestions and advice of others, which is the remedy they desperately need to cure their ignorance. Such waywardness keeps people clinging to their own whims so that they don’t allow themselves the opportunity to explore different ways to solve their dilemmas.

Such people complicate the simplest matters in their relationships as employees, parents and spouses.

3. Perfectionism

Perfectionism is the attitude or philosophy that sets rigid standards of personal performance and rejects everything that is not “perfect.” The reality is that perfection does not exist in the planet we all live in. However, we should not use this truth as an excuse for sloppiness and mediocrity.

A perfectionist evaluates ten things you have done, ignores the flawless nine and makes you feel unworthy because of the one minor mistake you made.

This very blog is not perfect; some sentences could have been written better and you may even find misspled words! I have published books and I’m sure you can point out mistakes in them. I was so relieved when found errors in books published even by best sellers!

Perfectionists often become stagnant as they will not advance to the next step until their demand for “perfection” is met. Besides complicating their own lives, these individuals also complicate the lives of others.


If you desire to keep simple things simple and simplify complicated matters:

  • Seek help, advice or  coaching from someone who is experienced in the dilemma you’re facing.
  • Realize that you don’t have all the answers and it’s OK. Grant yourself the opportunity to listen to others and learn from their wisdom.
  • Strive for excellence not perfection; move on to the next step in your project.


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